Anonymous asked: I really enjoy kinky sex but most men are apprehensive to even try when I give them permission. Is there a website where a submissive and Dom can get together or even perhaps a dating website that can help me weed out the passive sexual men?
If you’ve not come across it, then fetlife is likely what you are looking for.
It’s not really arranged like a dating site, that’s not it’s primary purpose, but it’s a pretty good way to connect with people - either by finding those who are geographically close to you, or by posting in forums with people who have similar interests. Good luck with the search…
Anonymous asked: Reading your blog is incredibly seductive. But for some of us, there is the stepping out into the real scene and discovering that many BDSM players are NOT very attractive and that good Doms are pretty rare, -and that is deeply discouraging... like we'd have a better chance at winning the lottery. I'm not a novice but my experiences (over ten years) have never gone beyond "that was interesting" and I will admit, sometimes I am resentful and despairing when I read your blog.
I’m sad to say that this is a story I hear rather too often… It does seem to be hard to find good partners, and good Doms in particular. And a bad Dom can be a horrible, dangerous, or just deeply disappointing thing.
The only thing I can say is that there is more and more information out there, more and more discussion, more and more presentations of the ‘right’ way to do things. We can only home that more people are taking the journey to understand themselves, understand their power, and understand how submissives work, that will allow them to be good and powerful Doms. God knows the rewards are worth it - even if the road is rather long, and rather hard.
I hope you find what you’re looking for… In the meantime I’ll keep blogging and home to inspire some Doms as to what is possible (and what is required), as well as making subs demand rather more.